What's up with that???
Someone explain to me why men do the things they do to the girls they supposedly like!!!! Please.
I am only goin to speak from my own personal experiences. Out of the many guys I've dated the first 4 mentioned here are the only ones I've gotten attached to.
The first one........says I like you I'm looking for a relationship. There is instant mutual attraction but both are to shy to make a move. So a few weeks later, with only seeing him that one time, tells me he is pursuing a relationship with an old friend but wants to be friends with me. 6 months pass and we talk off and on and then he contacts me saying he's single again. We attempt dating again......2 dates within a day of each other. Because of me, we did more than just hug. On that second date, he freaks out cause he says "I can see that look in your eyes.....you don't have to tell me how you feel, I can see it." We continue to talk as I was thinking we were still dating. My bday/Valentines Day rolls around and I ask what the plans are. He tells me he's working and is not asking off- this is after he wouldn't ask off for New Year's. I go off and we don't talk for 7 months. His bday rolls around and I send him a card to say "I still think of you." He calls me and we talk for about a month. He calls me up and wants to hang out. Since I am "talking" to another guy I don't give in to his advances for a kiss even though I was attracted to him. After that guy and I have ended our thing with big turmoil, I contact him for help. One day, he talks to me on the phone for nearly 3 hours and then invites himself over to my house for the first time. He stays about another 2 1/2 hours....spending all day with him. During his visit he says he's there for me (this was new cause he never has been). Said he'd help me any way he could and to keep "constant contact" with him. I attempt to and then one day he doesn't answer his phone. I leave a message for it to never be returned. This went on for about 2 1/2 weeks till I gave up. I've yet to hear from him. We call him.........."Billy" Everything is on MY time, not yours. I'm out to try to save the world because no one or nothing is more important than my career. (policeman/volunteer firefighter turned insurance agent)
I've had one that I welcomed home from the military for good. I was the only one around to welcome him home. He lied to me about his where abouts, how many women he had been with, told me I had to quit wearing sandals if I was to be goin out with him (told me what to wear), gave out his number while he was dating me, began to physically hurt me. After 2 months he finally got what he wanted in MY bedroom, avoided me for 3 days and then when I tricked him into answering the phone said I think we need to talk. We'll call him........."Andrew" Ruler of the world, what I say goes. Don't tell me no because I am a former soldier, I couldn't stand taking orders and now it's my turn to give them and you to obey.
Then Mr. Prince Charming who rode in on his Harley. I welcome him home from Iraq while on his 30 day leave from the military, blows into town for a weekend and absolutely treats me like a queen. There has never been a girl treated as nice or at least I hadn't. He had an "absolutely amazing weekend" and then leaves and falls off the face of the earth. We call him....."Tim" Responsible, Charming, Mannerly, Gentleman, but intelligent women that can be on my level intimidate the hell out of me.
Oh and now my favorite one!!!!!! Here's the scene........let's talk to this girl for 4 months, tell her everything that any girl wants to hear, get her really attached (cuz I have the desire to be wanted) and then when she comes to visit we'll act completely different. So I'll have lied to her, lead her on among other things just to see if she really would come even though I had no intention of ever living up to what I had promised. When she get's here we'll ignore her, make fun of her, threaten her, treat her like shit- worse than the dirt under dirt. When she gets home, we call her and tell her we have to be honest that we are not being mean we are just helping her out. We give her a checklist of what we don't like and say if she corrects it she's welcome back at Thanksgiving. The list went something like this: not outgoing enough, not tan enough, don't like your hair, make up, the clothes you wear, your accent, the music you listen to and the way you dance. We will have the audacity to ask her "what the fuck happened? did you just give up?" (No, you low life SOB.........this is what you do to me). We'll also tell her that she's not good enough for us but that she has the potential to be. We'll also complain to her that after we made those threats that we noticed she trembled everytime she went to touch me like she was scared of me (naw, ya think??? damn idiot). We'll do all this to get a cell phone out of her in her name cuz we know she cares for us that much. But what the stupid ass bastard didn't know is that his sister would call me, tell me the truth that he happened to leave out and I would be smart enough to have the phone stopped immediately and reported stolen. When he went in to find out why it was cut off they confiscated it and mailed it to me. LMAO Who's stupid now? He thinks I am since I have a phone an no job but again he doesn't know of the arrangements that have been made. Then out of the blue one night, he calls me and says what he thinks I should do is "start talking to me again like we were, love me again, be my friend and companion...........and send me that phone back." LMAO is all I could do. It's all about the phone........not the pussy. Strange considering he's the worst male whore you could ever find. Before hanging up that night he tells me "You're inconsiderate too. You haven't asked how I am and we just had a hurricane." I asked "I'M inconsiderate????!!!!!! After what you've done to me and the way you've talked to me you think I'M inconsiderate???? Why should I even care as to if you're ok? Why in the hell do you want me to care, you act like you hate me so much." One day I know he will rot somewhere for what he's done to me alone not to mention everyone else he has ever even been in a room with. We'll call him......"Jaycen" (like the movie) cause like "Andrew" I go around thinking everything can be solved with a fight until I literally almost kill them (cause I use my tools as a construction worker to fight with). If that wasn't enough I'm a USER, compulsive LIAR, male WHORE, BASTARD. I belong in the state pen.
and last but not least the current guy..........I've known him for a year or so. Just recently began to really talk to him. He knows of the recent events in my life but said he's willing to wait it out. He goes on and on about how much we are alike and how much he likes me and wants to hang out and we talk for MANY hours and then he never calls. I call him to no answer. I text him with no reply. We'll call him......."Scott" I'm young, single, and an EMT so I work constantly and really don't have time for a dating life but I convince myself and others that I can do it.
Does this behavior not sound like someone else I've mentioned earlier? I just realized that there is a matching buddy that I've previously dated to all these guys. I don't understand these men!!!! Where are the decent men? The family guys, that want a good girl, ready to settle down, have kids of his own, but knows how to have fun...........I really shouldn't worry about it cause I've realized lately that they just aren't worth the trouble. Maybe the guy I'm looking for, just doesn't exist in this millenium. But then I think.......I don't ask for much. I just want someone that loves me like I love them, that will take care of me like I do them, that knows how to respect me and tell me the truth and treat me right. Someone I'm not ashamed to admit to mama her baby girl is dating him.
I am only goin to speak from my own personal experiences. Out of the many guys I've dated the first 4 mentioned here are the only ones I've gotten attached to.
The first one........says I like you I'm looking for a relationship. There is instant mutual attraction but both are to shy to make a move. So a few weeks later, with only seeing him that one time, tells me he is pursuing a relationship with an old friend but wants to be friends with me. 6 months pass and we talk off and on and then he contacts me saying he's single again. We attempt dating again......2 dates within a day of each other. Because of me, we did more than just hug. On that second date, he freaks out cause he says "I can see that look in your eyes.....you don't have to tell me how you feel, I can see it." We continue to talk as I was thinking we were still dating. My bday/Valentines Day rolls around and I ask what the plans are. He tells me he's working and is not asking off- this is after he wouldn't ask off for New Year's. I go off and we don't talk for 7 months. His bday rolls around and I send him a card to say "I still think of you." He calls me and we talk for about a month. He calls me up and wants to hang out. Since I am "talking" to another guy I don't give in to his advances for a kiss even though I was attracted to him. After that guy and I have ended our thing with big turmoil, I contact him for help. One day, he talks to me on the phone for nearly 3 hours and then invites himself over to my house for the first time. He stays about another 2 1/2 hours....spending all day with him. During his visit he says he's there for me (this was new cause he never has been). Said he'd help me any way he could and to keep "constant contact" with him. I attempt to and then one day he doesn't answer his phone. I leave a message for it to never be returned. This went on for about 2 1/2 weeks till I gave up. I've yet to hear from him. We call him.........."Billy" Everything is on MY time, not yours. I'm out to try to save the world because no one or nothing is more important than my career. (policeman/volunteer firefighter turned insurance agent)
I've had one that I welcomed home from the military for good. I was the only one around to welcome him home. He lied to me about his where abouts, how many women he had been with, told me I had to quit wearing sandals if I was to be goin out with him (told me what to wear), gave out his number while he was dating me, began to physically hurt me. After 2 months he finally got what he wanted in MY bedroom, avoided me for 3 days and then when I tricked him into answering the phone said I think we need to talk. We'll call him........."Andrew" Ruler of the world, what I say goes. Don't tell me no because I am a former soldier, I couldn't stand taking orders and now it's my turn to give them and you to obey.
Then Mr. Prince Charming who rode in on his Harley. I welcome him home from Iraq while on his 30 day leave from the military, blows into town for a weekend and absolutely treats me like a queen. There has never been a girl treated as nice or at least I hadn't. He had an "absolutely amazing weekend" and then leaves and falls off the face of the earth. We call him....."Tim" Responsible, Charming, Mannerly, Gentleman, but intelligent women that can be on my level intimidate the hell out of me.
Oh and now my favorite one!!!!!! Here's the scene........let's talk to this girl for 4 months, tell her everything that any girl wants to hear, get her really attached (cuz I have the desire to be wanted) and then when she comes to visit we'll act completely different. So I'll have lied to her, lead her on among other things just to see if she really would come even though I had no intention of ever living up to what I had promised. When she get's here we'll ignore her, make fun of her, threaten her, treat her like shit- worse than the dirt under dirt. When she gets home, we call her and tell her we have to be honest that we are not being mean we are just helping her out. We give her a checklist of what we don't like and say if she corrects it she's welcome back at Thanksgiving. The list went something like this: not outgoing enough, not tan enough, don't like your hair, make up, the clothes you wear, your accent, the music you listen to and the way you dance. We will have the audacity to ask her "what the fuck happened? did you just give up?" (No, you low life SOB.........this is what you do to me). We'll also tell her that she's not good enough for us but that she has the potential to be. We'll also complain to her that after we made those threats that we noticed she trembled everytime she went to touch me like she was scared of me (naw, ya think??? damn idiot). We'll do all this to get a cell phone out of her in her name cuz we know she cares for us that much. But what the stupid ass bastard didn't know is that his sister would call me, tell me the truth that he happened to leave out and I would be smart enough to have the phone stopped immediately and reported stolen. When he went in to find out why it was cut off they confiscated it and mailed it to me. LMAO Who's stupid now? He thinks I am since I have a phone an no job but again he doesn't know of the arrangements that have been made. Then out of the blue one night, he calls me and says what he thinks I should do is "start talking to me again like we were, love me again, be my friend and companion...........and send me that phone back." LMAO is all I could do. It's all about the phone........not the pussy. Strange considering he's the worst male whore you could ever find. Before hanging up that night he tells me "You're inconsiderate too. You haven't asked how I am and we just had a hurricane." I asked "I'M inconsiderate????!!!!!! After what you've done to me and the way you've talked to me you think I'M inconsiderate???? Why should I even care as to if you're ok? Why in the hell do you want me to care, you act like you hate me so much." One day I know he will rot somewhere for what he's done to me alone not to mention everyone else he has ever even been in a room with. We'll call him......"Jaycen" (like the movie) cause like "Andrew" I go around thinking everything can be solved with a fight until I literally almost kill them (cause I use my tools as a construction worker to fight with). If that wasn't enough I'm a USER, compulsive LIAR, male WHORE, BASTARD. I belong in the state pen.
and last but not least the current guy..........I've known him for a year or so. Just recently began to really talk to him. He knows of the recent events in my life but said he's willing to wait it out. He goes on and on about how much we are alike and how much he likes me and wants to hang out and we talk for MANY hours and then he never calls. I call him to no answer. I text him with no reply. We'll call him......."Scott" I'm young, single, and an EMT so I work constantly and really don't have time for a dating life but I convince myself and others that I can do it.
Does this behavior not sound like someone else I've mentioned earlier? I just realized that there is a matching buddy that I've previously dated to all these guys. I don't understand these men!!!! Where are the decent men? The family guys, that want a good girl, ready to settle down, have kids of his own, but knows how to have fun...........I really shouldn't worry about it cause I've realized lately that they just aren't worth the trouble. Maybe the guy I'm looking for, just doesn't exist in this millenium. But then I think.......I don't ask for much. I just want someone that loves me like I love them, that will take care of me like I do them, that knows how to respect me and tell me the truth and treat me right. Someone I'm not ashamed to admit to mama her baby girl is dating him.
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